HOW DID WE GET HERE?

From the time we are children we are given fairytale images of what life is supposed to be. As young girls we wait for “Prince Charming” to come and rescue us from our desolate situations with a glass slipper and promise of royalty in a magical kingdom in happily ever after land. Many of us were blessed to have examples of those “Prince Charmings” in our own households, fathers who sternly demanded that we be treated like young ladies and that we be aware of what a gentleman is and not expect to receive any less. Others only have these fairytales as demonstrations of distant fantasies depicting lives unreachable. So why is it that regardless of our upbringing we, women in particular, tend to end up in the same proverbial space, falling for most anything that gives us a little bit of attention.

Just think back to when you were a teenager the butterflies that would invade your stomach the minute your crush would show you a little attention, drop a note in your locker, or give you a little nudge on your shoulder. God forbid they ask us to “go out” or “go steady” or “be their girl” all that we would hold so precious and true, the standards and expectations we had, tend to wane at the idea that someone wants to be with us. We want to cherish that feeling and allow ourselves to fall into whatever we need to do to keep us in that situation. After all, the human condition is to desire to love and be loved in return. Right? So what brings us to this point? Is this desire so strong that seemingly intelligent people, who know how they are supposed to be treated, loose all of their senses and the standards that they know they should uphold become less than important?